What took me to counselling, many years ago, was a complete feeling of overwhelm; if I didn’t get help NOW, I was going to break. As we explored that, it became clear that I was super hard on myself, with an inner voice that insisted that I was worthless, useless, unworthy of love. It didn’t help that I had been sent to boarding school, and bullied there, nor that I’d never fully grieved the loss of my father. I was shut down, in total defense mode; living my life in black and white, full of shame. It helps to talk to someone who’s had some idea of the pain you’re going through. My pain is not going to be your pain, everyone’s journey is unique – but I might have some idea of what you’re going through.

Talking to someone with the skills and experience to truly hear and understand you can bring enormous relief. Having the time and space to explore and reflect on those difficulties with a trained individual can help you to find ways to cope better or move on from early wounds.

I work with adults from my home (or occasionally online) near to the A12, in easy reach of Ipswich and Colchester. My counselling room is on the ground floor, but there’s a step up to the property; and I’m owned by a small black cat who sometimes wants to help.

Contact me to set up a free, 10-15 minute phone call to see if we mutually want to take it further.

I am a member of both the UKCP and the BACP, and follow both their codes of ethics.